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Appreciation to You!

by Carmen G. Farrell | May 1, 2025 | 1 comment

A small brown dog sits on a kitchen floor, gazing longingly at a delicious-smelling pan full of meat on the stove, out of reach

Blogs don’t exist without readers, so whether you’re new to turnofphrase or a long-time loyal supporter, I thank you. Truly. Growing pains have meant none of you have received notifications of the last few posts. Here’s a link to the one published at the end of April about what a prominent Canadian politician and I may have in common.

If you are reading this, all is well and no need for you to do anything, except read (if you like). Glitches fixed. Thanks again.

If you are curious about the photo with this message…Sometimes I learn from my dog. She’s wishing and hoping, putting in all the “cute” work to get those delicious-smelling meats into her mouth…but it’s just not working. However, she remains hopeful. She keeps doing the work, kind of like writing for a living.

PHOTO ID: A small brown dog sits on a kitchen floor, gazing longingly at a delicious-smelling frying pan of meat on the stove, out of reach.

Written by Carmen G. Farrell

An emerging writer and mother of two, Carmen Farrell (she/her) lives in North Vancouver. In her memoir-in-progress, she explores both personal and societal ableism, sharing her experience of raising a son with impairments in a world that devalues disability.

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